For many people, a period of uncertainty begins after the first date. What’s the right way to act now? Who writes first? When do you ask for a second date?

So many questions and yet so few answers. Because even if no one likes to hear it: There are no right answers to these questions.  

Everyone is different. What’s right for one person can be completely wrong for the next person. It’s impossible to know what someone is thinking. Is he or she still interested? Has the person maybe even developed feelings for you already? Are they just too shy to ask?  

So many different aspects would have to be considered to find the perfect answer. And that simply isn’t possible.

The old-fashioned point of view is that the woman should wait for the man to call. If he doesn’t, he’s obviously not interested. Our opinion on that approach: It’s a bunch of nonsense!

Not every guy is overflowing with confidence and immediately has the courage to write a woman again after the first date. Men can be shy, too, but of course there are also those who are “hunters”. They want to conquer the woman, take the lead and keep the upper hand in the flirting game. With these types of guys, a first message from the woman following a date might not work as well. On the female side as well, very different notions exist when it comes to flirting. There are completely emancipated, self-confident women who like to take matters into their own hands, and of course there are those who want to be wooed. But how do you know which kind of person you went on a date with?

One way of putting it: You don’t know until it’s too late. That’s why the period after the first date is probably the most difficult. But hey, you can get through it. Just follow your gut instinct. Mind off, intuition on. The heart will follow all by itself.

If you listen to your gut instinct, you end up choosing the option that you’re most comfortable with yourself. And if it does end up leading down the wrong path, at least you stayed true to yourself. And that’s worth a whole lot when you’re looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right to have a happy relationship with.