After the first message, more messages follow and then the desire to meet for a first date. But what’s the best way to approach this? Just blurting out if the other person wants to meet sometime?  

Yes! Exactly! Whether you opt for a simple “Would you like to meet sometime?” or an official invitation to meet for a coffee, cocktail or delicious dinner doesn’t matter. The important thing is that you’re not afraid to ask. If you’ve established a good connection through your messages, your chances of getting rejected are very slim. And even if you do, then at least you know that this isn’t the right online dating partner for you, after all.  

Whether the man or the woman takes initiative here first is completely irrelevant. Whoever feels ready for a first date should ask the question. Because who knows: Maybe the other person is feeling a bit shy and simply hasn’t had the courage to ask you.

Once you’ve overcome this hurdle, the next question you’ll ask yourself is: Where should you go for your first date?

Here, you can let your imagination run wild. From a cozy café to a chic bar or a fine restaurant, everything is allowed as long as you’re both on board with the idea. A party or special event is also a good choice for a first date.

The important thing is that you both agree to the place and feel comfortable there. Only then is it possible to get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere.

But there are also places that are less suitable for a first date. These include a loud club, a movie theater and your own home.

Clubs are great for having fun and letting loose on the dance floor. But having a conversation there is difficult, and that’s exactly what a first date is all about. Talking, getting to get to know each other and getting a feel of the other person. For the same reason, going to see a movie and silently sitting side by side staring at the screen for 1.5 to 2.5 hours isn’t ideal the first time you meet.

But why is your own home not a good choice for a first date? Here the answer simply has to do with your own safety. Who knows if you’ll actually like your potential dream partner in real life? Who knows if he or she was actually honest on the Internet? The iron rule should therefore be: Never have the first date inside your own four walls. And also don’t go to your date’s house. There’s just no way of knowing what might await you there. After all, your flirting partner is essentially a complete stranger.